Flow Through Fear

Flow Through Fear

Some days, fear is crippling and freezes us in a place we feel protected. I remember a conversation, at a party, about a woman who was so fearful of various things in the world happening to her, that she stayed close to home most days. She spent a good amount of her life frozen in fear, crippled by the idea that something bad could happen to her. A good friend, finally, got her to take small steps out the door, first still fearful, but over time, the fear lightened. When I heard this story, I immediately thought, “oh how sad for her. It would be tough to live that way, all the time.” And then I realized, I do. Maybe not to her level, but I do make decisions out of fear. I do work myself into anxiety over fearful ideas that could happen to me. I do let worries led by fear, freeze me into inaction, and if being in action is a way to do life, what was I doing?

Once upon a time, there was a lady that went for a jog, as she had done several times a week, her entire life. One morning jog wouldn’t allow her back home, as she was killed by a stranger on her run. The motive was robbery, which is even sadder, as I have no more than a $5 on me when I run. I immediately internalized the news, and took it personal, as a runner myself.

I had to know every detail about this lady, where she was, who she knew, and who the robber was, and why. That was the big question for me—why her? Why that morning? This news story, about a stranger, halted my running habit for a month. For an entire month, I was frozen in fear over running by myself. This activity I love to do, and which I had done my entire life, was now so laced with fear, that it stole my joy.

I was no different that the woman in the conversation at the party. With certain situations, I let fear cripple me, too, and I wanted to do that less of the time. I discussed this idea with a fellow yoga teacher, and she asked if I meditated. At the time, I didn’t, but she went onto explain how you can meditate to clear out negative energy in your body. Negative thoughts would lighten as I focused on positive elements. “For as much negative that happens in the world, look at all the positive,” she said. I wanted to get into this new headspace, so I dove into meditation practice. There are so many different types of meditation, and we have other articles that focus, specifically, on meditation. Here is a favorite, at-home resource we previously posted. I found my favorites, and I committed to a morning ritual that included meditation. I shared my feelings about fear with my husband and he’s agreed to support me by making me aware if I make a decision out of fear.

“What if something bad happens,” I’d say.

“What if it all goes your way,” he’d respond.

Nobody discusses how many uninterrupted, safe miles they run. Nobody acknowledges all the road trips that end with us arriving safely to our destination. Nobody talks about all the airplanes that safely land. Yet these things happen every day, and while there may be some fear lingering around about each of these activities, none of it is usually crippling us or our joy. Take proper precautions and enjoy the activities which bring you joy. If you find yourself making decisions rooted in fear, try these helpful breathing meditations, and guided meditations to help lift you into a new mind space. Faith is greater than fear, so elevating into a higher mind space is imperative. We have so many helpers in the spiritual world, and it’s important to access this faith in times of need. Life is meant to be lived, out loud, and in person, so let’s squash fear together, and live with abundant joy.

If you find yourself deep-rooted in fear, find some place to talk it out or write it out. Sometimes carrying the burden, yourself is just too heavy, and these practices and helpers can help release the load for you.

1. Online Counseling is a great way to access support in a timely manner, when you need it.

2. Breath work is beneficial to both your mind and body, and I share three of my favorites here.

3. Guided Meditation is accessible via YouTube, or numerous meditation apps. Find one that fits you. Here’s one of my favorites!

4. Taking action or being in activity helps the mind re-direct during acute anxiety attacks, so make time for a walk, a workout, a yoga class, or something else that gets your body in motion.

Lacey Pruett

Lacey Pruett is an author, business owner and yoga teacher, passionate about helping women find their authentic self. Serving as a communicator, TV host, speaker and educator for over 20+ years, she's equipped to mentor women of all ages. Her efforts gained momentum in 2012, when she served as Mrs. Texas United States, and spoke to a broader audience about healthy living and mindfulness. She and her husband live in the Dallas, TX area, have a Doberman (Maximus) and a Corgi-mix (Samson.) She is active in animal rescue efforts around Texas. Check out more about Lacey and her work at: www.laceypruett.com. She's on Instagram and Twitter @Laceypruett and on Facebook at /laceyfit.